To be fair, it's much more complicated for Jamie. It's not just living well.
"And because it takes the form most abhorrent to him. A lover, a child, a life, a place: all these have I found, a man's life, forever away from him in which he takes no part. It is not merely that I have a life I will love well. It is that it is precisely what he has always feared he would lose me to, his greatest nightmare. It is all he could not prevent with all his machinations and all his tricks and all the dead boys he laid at my heart."
There's more than one way to twist the knife.
"And most important: I know you will help me protect it from him."
Re: after the SH event
"And because it takes the form most abhorrent to him. A lover, a child, a life, a place: all these have I found, a man's life, forever away from him in which he takes no part. It is not merely that I have a life I will love well. It is that it is precisely what he has always feared he would lose me to, his greatest nightmare. It is all he could not prevent with all his machinations and all his tricks and all the dead boys he laid at my heart."
There's more than one way to twist the knife.
"And most important: I know you will help me protect it from him."